Decide about flowers or charity donations
Flowers can be placed on the coffin. Some families may ask for donations to charity rather than flowers.
Consider what to do with the ashes
You can scatter them at a meaningful place later or inter them in a family grave or at a crematorium memorial site. Churchyard burials are rare nowadays but it’s possible to be buried in a family grave.
Opt for a dress code if appropriate
Fewer people wear traditional mourning clothes these days, though some see sombre attire as a mark of respect. Many choose smart clothes suitable for a celebration. It’s your choice.
Funeral services are a way of saying goodbye; a personal tribute to a beloved friend or relative. Families face many choices around the type of ceremony, from music to readings, eulogies and structure of the service. By talking these through in advance, you will be able to arrange a funeral which is in keeping with a loved one’s personal wishes.
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